Saturday, September 5, 2009

Quick Update

Quick update while both kids are sleeping: Oh my goodness! Things are pretty wild around here. The little guy is adjusting really well. He is clinging to Mr. X, but he likes me now, too. It's clear to see that he's basically a very happy and easy-going little boy, and I can't wait until we're able to bond with him and make him comfortable enough to feel that way all the time (or at least as much of the time as any toddler can be). Our baby girl is doing well, too, but she's not gaining as much weight as she should. :( So, I am nursing her like crazy. We go back to the doctor on Tuesday to see how her weight gain is doing. I started keeping track, and she's nursing about 8-10 hours per day. At the doctor's advice, we cut out all pumping and supplementing this week to try to maximize stimulation for milk supply, and I'm just nursing her as much as she wants. I'm trying to rest and eat as much as I can. And I started co-sleeping with her, which means we're both getting more sleep, though I'm not sleeping as deeply. Fortunately, the doctor and the lactation consultant both say the baby looks great--very healthy and well-hydrated--so I'm not panicking . . . yet, anyway! I feel bad that nursing so much makes it harder to spend time with the little guy right now, so I'm trying to take every opportunity I can to play with him, talk to him, and feed him. Argh. Right now, it's whatever works. And I have a feeling the policy will be "whatever works" for quite a while.

I have been thinking about why the timing worked out this way with the kids. One lesson I'm learning from all this is humility--I can't be the perfect mom. I feel like we waited and hoped and prayed for these children, and I want to do everything right. But this situation has brought home to me--maybe faster than I would have acknowledged it otherwise--that it's just not possible for me to do everything perfectly according to all the "rules." So I'm praying that God will help me to be the mother that he wants me to be (rather than the mother I think I should be), recognizing that I need an awful lot of help to do that!


HereWeGoAJen said...

My goodness, that is a lot of nursing! For some light at the end of the tunnel, at around five months, Elizabeth got REALLY fast at nursing and now we spend about the same time nursing per week than you are spending per day. (I keep track too and right now our weekly average is about 12 hours.) She can fill herself up in five minutes now and it used to take an hour.

You are a terrific mother. It shines through in all your words and stories.

Tridentine Wife said...

I still think it's awesome and you're a super mom to have the strength to take care of both kids. And it's just like you said, it'll be whatever works for awhile and that seems like the right attitude to have.

Beth said...

You are doing a fantastic job!!!

SuzanneinAustralia said...

Fantastic job, drink lots of water too, 1-2 glass before and after feeds, have a glass nearby, try increasing the number of glass to 12 + a day, more rest, fenugreek, mothers thistle can help too


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